Many people struggle with the fear of the future, specifically the fear of having a bad job later on, as is my case, and this often leads to procrastination. Not knowing what the future holds can cause intense anxiety, making it difficult to take clear action. For some, the greatest fear is not just of failure, but of ending up in a job they don’t like or that doesn’t suit them.
This fear arrived not very long ago, when I was maybe 13 or 14. I began to realize the importance of my future thanks in particular to my sister, who today regrets very much not having worked hard at school, and not having listened to my parents. After her studies, she was neither happy nor comfortable in her work. She got her act together and today she’s happy in her current job. So she’s a source of inspiration for me, but at the same time I’ve stopped thinking about my future since I was 13 or 14.
Procrastination had become my way of coping. Postponing tasks gave me temporary relief, but in the long term it was a great weight off my shoulders. It created a vicious circle: procrastination led to guilt and more stress, which made it even harder to start anything. I don’t think I’m out of this vicious circle yet, but I’ve the tools to leave it. Getting out of this cycle requires more than just motivation. It requires modest but thoughtful action, and self-compassion. It’s essential to recognize that fear is part of the process, and that it’s normal not to have planned or understood everything. The key is to act in spite of uncertainty. Each small step builds confidence and makes the future a little less daunting.
You’re allowed to be afraid of one thing. Fear for your children. The rest, money, work, taxes, bungee jumping, it’s very simple, you just say no fear and leap forward.
Katherine Pancol
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