{"id":11,"date":"2025-05-22T12:19:45","date_gmt":"2025-05-22T10:19:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/?p=11"},"modified":"2025-06-03T08:41:16","modified_gmt":"2025-06-03T06:41:16","slug":"fear-and-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/2025\/05\/22\/fear-and-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"Fear and Anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>For as long as I can&nbsp;remember,&nbsp;I\u2019ve&nbsp;had&nbsp;a&nbsp;strong&nbsp;fear&nbsp;of&nbsp;losing&nbsp;control. It&nbsp;wasn\u2019t&nbsp;always&nbsp;visible&nbsp;from&nbsp;the&nbsp;outside, but&nbsp;itdeeply&nbsp;affected&nbsp;how I&nbsp;behaved&nbsp;and how I&nbsp;felt&nbsp;inside. This&nbsp;fear&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;come out of&nbsp;nowhere&nbsp;it&nbsp;has&nbsp;roots&nbsp;in&nbsp;my&nbsp;past.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&nbsp;began&nbsp;with&nbsp;several&nbsp;painful&nbsp;experiences. As a&nbsp;child, I&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;feel&nbsp;emotionally&nbsp;supported&nbsp;or&nbsp;understood.&nbsp;Later, certain&nbsp;relationships&nbsp;left&nbsp;me feeling&nbsp;betrayed&nbsp;and&nbsp;rejected. One major&nbsp;turning&nbsp;point&nbsp;was&nbsp;a car accident. I&nbsp;wasn\u2019t&nbsp;driving, but I&nbsp;completely&nbsp;trusted&nbsp;the&nbsp;person&nbsp;behind&nbsp;the&nbsp;wheel.&nbsp;After&nbsp;the accident, I&nbsp;realized&nbsp;how&nbsp;quickly&nbsp;things&nbsp;could&nbsp;change,&nbsp;how&nbsp;powerless&nbsp;we&nbsp;are in certain situations.&nbsp;That\u2019s&nbsp;when&nbsp;I&nbsp;started&nbsp;trying&nbsp;to control&nbsp;everything&nbsp;:&nbsp;my&nbsp;environment,&nbsp;my&nbsp;actions,&nbsp;even&nbsp;my&nbsp;emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At&nbsp;school,&nbsp;this&nbsp;fear&nbsp;of&nbsp;losing&nbsp;control&nbsp;became&nbsp;stronger. I put&nbsp;a&nbsp;lot of pressure on&nbsp;myself&nbsp;to&nbsp;be&nbsp;perfect. I&nbsp;got&nbsp;frustrated&nbsp;veryquickly&nbsp;when&nbsp;things&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;go the&nbsp;way&nbsp;I&nbsp;expected,&nbsp;whether&nbsp;it&nbsp;was&nbsp;a&nbsp;bad&nbsp;grade, a group&nbsp;project&nbsp;not&nbsp;going&nbsp;well, or&nbsp;evenbeing&nbsp;late. I&nbsp;often&nbsp;felt&nbsp;anxious&nbsp;in situations&nbsp;where&nbsp;I&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;have full control, like oral&nbsp;presentations&nbsp;or group&nbsp;activitieswhere&nbsp;I&nbsp;had&nbsp;to&nbsp;rely&nbsp;on&nbsp;others.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The&nbsp;fear&nbsp;also&nbsp;showed&nbsp;up in&nbsp;smaller,&nbsp;daily&nbsp;moments. For&nbsp;example, I&nbsp;would&nbsp;always&nbsp;feel&nbsp;more&nbsp;comfortable&nbsp;when&nbsp;I&nbsp;was&nbsp;the one&nbsp;deciding&nbsp;the plan or&nbsp;managing&nbsp;how&nbsp;things&nbsp;would&nbsp;go. I&nbsp;also&nbsp;needed&nbsp;to&nbsp;feel&nbsp;prepared&nbsp;all the time,&nbsp;because&nbsp;beingunprepared&nbsp;felt&nbsp;like&nbsp;losing&nbsp;control.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Looking&nbsp;back, I&nbsp;understand&nbsp;now&nbsp;that&nbsp;this&nbsp;fear&nbsp;was&nbsp;my&nbsp;brain\u2019s&nbsp;way&nbsp;of&nbsp;protecting&nbsp;me&nbsp;from&nbsp;emotional&nbsp;harm. But in reality,&nbsp;itisolated&nbsp;me and made me more&nbsp;anxious. It&nbsp;affected&nbsp;my&nbsp;confidence and made&nbsp;school&nbsp;life&nbsp;heavier&nbsp;than&nbsp;it&nbsp;should&nbsp;have been.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Writing&nbsp;this&nbsp;article&nbsp;helped&nbsp;me&nbsp;see&nbsp;that&nbsp;fear&nbsp;doesn\u2019t&nbsp;define&nbsp;me.&nbsp;It\u2019s&nbsp;something&nbsp;I\u2019ve&nbsp;experienced, but not&nbsp;something&nbsp;I&nbsp;wantto let control&nbsp;my&nbsp;life&nbsp;anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For as long as I can&nbsp;remember,&nbsp;I\u2019ve&nbsp;had&nbsp;a&nbsp;strong&nbsp;fear&nbsp;of&nbsp;losing&nbsp;control. It&nbsp;wasn\u2019t&nbsp;always&nbsp;visible&nbsp;from&nbsp;the&nbsp;outside, but&nbsp;itdeeply&nbsp;affected&nbsp;how I&nbsp;behaved&nbsp;and how I&nbsp;felt&nbsp;inside. This&nbsp;fear&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;come out of&nbsp;nowhere&nbsp;it&nbsp;has&nbsp;roots&nbsp;in&nbsp;my&nbsp;past.&nbsp; It&nbsp;began&nbsp;with&nbsp;several&nbsp;painful&nbsp;experiences. As a&nbsp;child, I&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;feel&nbsp;emotionally&nbsp;supported&nbsp;or&nbsp;understood.&nbsp;Later, certain&nbsp;relationships&nbsp;left&nbsp;me feeling&nbsp;betrayed&nbsp;and&nbsp;rejected. One major&nbsp;turning&nbsp;point&nbsp;was&nbsp;a car accident. I&nbsp;wasn\u2019t&nbsp;driving, but I&nbsp;completely&nbsp;trusted&nbsp;the&nbsp;person&nbsp;behind&nbsp;the&nbsp;wheel.&nbsp;After&nbsp;the accident, I&nbsp;realized&nbsp;how&nbsp;quickly&nbsp;things&nbsp;could&nbsp;change,&nbsp;how&nbsp;powerless&nbsp;we&nbsp;are in certain situations.&nbsp;That\u2019s&nbsp;when&nbsp;I&nbsp;started&nbsp;trying&nbsp;to control&nbsp;everything&nbsp;:&nbsp;my&nbsp;environment,&nbsp;my&nbsp;actions,&nbsp;even&nbsp;my&nbsp;emotions.&nbsp; At&nbsp;school,&nbsp;this&nbsp;fear&nbsp;of&nbsp;losing&nbsp;control&nbsp;became&nbsp;stronger. I put&nbsp;a&nbsp;lot of pressure on&nbsp;myself&nbsp;to&nbsp;be&nbsp;perfect. I&nbsp;got&nbsp;frustrated&nbsp;veryquickly&nbsp;when&nbsp;things&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;go the&nbsp;way&nbsp;I&nbsp;expected,&nbsp;whether&nbsp;it&nbsp;was&nbsp;a&nbsp;bad&nbsp;grade, a group&nbsp;project&nbsp;not&nbsp;going&nbsp;well, or&nbsp;evenbeing&nbsp;late. I&nbsp;often&nbsp;felt&nbsp;anxious&nbsp;in situations&nbsp;where&nbsp;I&nbsp;didn\u2019t&nbsp;have full control, like oral&nbsp;presentations&nbsp;or group&nbsp;activitieswhere&nbsp;I&nbsp;had&nbsp;to&nbsp;rely&nbsp;on&nbsp;others.&nbsp; The&nbsp;fear&nbsp;also&nbsp;showed&nbsp;up in&nbsp;smaller,&nbsp;daily&nbsp;moments. For&nbsp;example, I&nbsp;would&nbsp;always&nbsp;feel&nbsp;more&nbsp;comfortable&nbsp;when&nbsp;I&nbsp;was&nbsp;the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":32,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-non-classe"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/32"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":18,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11\/revisions\/18"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/web.gymnasedebussigny.ch\/mindful-psychologist\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}